The unconventional is possible
The summer of 2022 was everything new. Nothing much stayed the same. I guess my heart really did say “Enough is enough” and took the leap for real this time.
2022 is the year I’ve dedicated to free my heart from fears. The reason being is I’ve realized my potential and yet, I’ve come in my way just about a million times. I’ve realized that I can be both, the problem and solution. However, I chose to be the solution. For this, I needed to work- to work on challenging myself, to work on growing, to work on falling and failing but still persevering.
I am not going to lie but life did present very awkward and uncomfortable situations when I made this choice. However, this was also accompanied with abundant experiences and possibilities. Allow me to explain.
It’s my last summer before I graduate from Singapore Management University and hear me out, I was tired of doing what everyone else was doing. The same old summer courses or internships that they could convert into full-time jobs after they graduate so there’s a financial security as well as corporate 9–5 structure (or sadly, not). All I’m saying is my heart was calling out for more. The more conventional choices I made, the dimmer the warmth and fire of my heart got.
I was missing something and that was courage. Courage to do the unconventional without worrying about “log kya kahenge” *what will people think*. What stings within my heart and what I hate to see in others is excuses over actual execution but boy, did I see that in more places than not. The thing is we’re all paralyzed by fear and the first step to moving past any fears we may have, is recognizing what fears we have. The reason behind them could come from varied past experiences, societal conditional and family upbringing.
I knew there was a risk with the choices I wanted to make but I also knew they were necessary to protect my passion and fire. So, I did it! I quit my internship and went back to India to start my own coaching business. I faced my fear of scuba diving and solo tripping. I took the action and everytime, I heard myself make excuses, I told myself that those fears are irrational and sought my higher power for support and comfort.
You see, our mind was meant to be fearful and precautious, but we don’t need that in 99% of situations. Hence, identifying when your mind is unnecessarily holding you back and then seeking your higher self to push you forward is the most important skill to live an authentic and successful life in my opinion. We can’t use our minds to fix our minds as it manipulates us with fear many times. Our higher self, on the other hand, is love and passion. It’s our truth and we can’t deny it. We can best serve the world when we access our inner voice and power. For me, I did that by tuning into my heart and making choices from there rather than what I though was more practical. I’ve never been more motivated and excited to live life.
Starting my business came with its own ups and downs but what kept me going is the fact that I even had the courage to start and follow my heart. My mission of serving my clients and helping them grow into their most authentic beings motivated me to work on a daily basis! Apart from my professional life, I was insistent on doing everything that feared me in my personal life.
That started with scuba diving. I have been afraid of scuba diving and sharks but after reading the statistics on that, I knew there was no real fear. Sharks kill 12 humans per year whereas humans kill about 40 million sharks a year. The sharks we saw wouldn’t harm us unless we harmed them so it was all good, haha!
Although, I sat out my first dive due to equalisation difficulties, I made it through the next 5 as I convinced myself that I am capable of feeling the joy and peace that the underwater world had to offer. I trusted the universe and descended slowly. I entered the most beautiful and vibrant places in the world. I experienced so much joy and realized the importance of my breathe As I descended into the colourful corals, I developed great gratitude for my body and my breathe because of what it showed me and made me experience. It was surreal. To anyone reading this, I urge you to explore and experiment with scuba diving if you haven’t yet.
The next fear was that of solo tripping. I went to Spain, Mallorca and Barcelona, to be precise. Fortunately, I stayed in hostels and made amazing friends. What I soon realized from their stories was that the unconventional was very much a possibility. Many of them were living their dream lives and most of them had one-way tickets while they worked online or around the world.
I could never imagine how many people live this way, but it gave my heart and my dreams its much need push and hope. The dreams I’ve had for myself have seemed unstable, scary and impractical in the eyes of society but to me, they’re exactly what my heart wants so I can’t help but keep following it. I always knew I had to tread the unconventional path, I knew life was more than this and I felt that knowing deep within me.
I believe that life is too short to just settle and not work for what our heart wants. There’s a definite and obvious cultural norm in every society. In the Indian society, for example, when I decided to go solo tripping, a lot of eyebrows were raised. Out of concern, ofcourse. However, I had to sit for 30 minutes with my uncles and aunties to talk about the “dangers” and “fears” of travelling alone and the “do’s and don’ts” of my trip. If you’re Indian or even Asian, I’m sure you understand.
Going there, I realized solo travelling was very normal and cool in fact! Why are so many of us so worried, then? People said I had real guts to go do that. It’s because our mind and nervous system detects everything unfamiliar as a threat. If we give in to that, what opportunity are we giving our souls to evolve? Our thoughts and fears are NOT our truths. The fears are precautionary and yet, unnecessary. Why do we have them then, you may ask. It is because life has evolved way faster than our brains. Our ancestors had very real fears as they looked for means of survival. We’re way past the survival stage to still have these fears. Now, all these fears do is hold us back from our best selves.
The unconventional is possible and it will take you far if you just believe in this TRUTH. This truth will serve you, not hinder you. Society will brainwash you but don’t lose the voice of your heart and soul while you thread your most authentic path. You are more than your fear. You are more capable than you think. Get curious of the bounds of your capability. Turn the fear of the unknown into a deep curiosity of your potential.