I am fine

A word I have said so many times when it was far from my reality. It has suddenly become an impulse statement; “How are you? I am fine ”. It has become more like a quick way to mask my pain with a smile.

Recently, I have been thinking about this so much that when someone tells me they are fine, I doubt it and I am tempted to probe further to be assured that the person is truly fine.

Sometimes this might seem intrusive, especially if you don’t have a great relationship with such a person.

Moreover, not many people, including myself, are expressive of how they truly feel nor are willing to share their problems with people, especially at that moment, and I think it is fine.

As much as we want to be there for someone in their pain or struggles, I think we should do it kindly and with patience. Be kind, be there and be patient.

You might say you don’t have all the time in the world to be there. Still, try to let this person feel like they can trust you with their pain, and if they choose not to share it, pray for and with them. This goes a long way beyond what you can do.

Also, ensure you don't belittle their feelings. No, don’t. Just because you think whatever someone is going through is minute compared to your personal pain pedestal doesn’t mean their pain is not valid.

It is best to not say anything than to say to someone “na because of that small thing you dey cry”. Be kind, please. People are going through a lot, and you never know what you can say that can trigger a person.

In summary, Be Kind.

With love and from love,
Preciousbabs❤🤗

Ps: This does not mean all the time I have told you I am fine, I wasn’t fine ooo. T for thanks