I want to be honest; reading this caused many different emotions within me. I felt sad, anger, happy, proud, indifferent, helpless. As a white gay white man, I really haven’t got much to offer on this topic. But I guess I just wanted to air it’s effect on me.

I acknowledge that neither my approval, or recognition are needed but it’s there all the same. While I am in a same-sex relationship with a South Sea Islander and Aboriginal Australian man, I think I can begin to understand the decision to discontinue dating white men.

I’d be lying if I said it didn’t hurt me to hear it. I had to search pretty deep to consider why it hurt, and while I would like to think it’s because I wish for reconciliation and celebration of difference between white and black people, I couldn’t deny that some part of my hurt was an ego driven white privilege that refuses to die.