
But just because I don’t fight about laundry doesn’t mean I roll over for anything. My deal-breakers are just a whole lot bigger. I don’t give a fuck about what he wants to do with his life — it’s his fucking life — but I care an awful lot about mine and him not harming me while I live it.
But knowing what action to take requires knowing what we want, outside of what others want — i.e., authenticity — which requires that we take full responsibility for our lives. Which requires that we dump all of the bad assumptions and models around self love, take agency in…