
Growing up in a Black household Did anyone ever teach you how to date?
I can answer that question
No!
I’ve been saying this for a long time that black folks don’t know how to date (especially men). I say men in particular because growing up we struggled with this because were so focused on trying to finesse the pussy instead of trying to take the girl out or even properly ask a girl to go out with us. It was always get the pussy and move on to the next Chick. No one wants to be honest about their intentions from the jump because everyone has a fucking EGO. The worst thing that a woman can say is “NO” if all you want to do is fuck. Just move on and try some where else and stop selling Dreams.
“What Made You want to write about this?”
So to answer the question there’s this show called “Insecure” (I’m not sure if you guys watch but it’s a good black show you should check it out.) but like I was saying I watched an episode where Lawrence and Issa (Two of main characters in the show) broke up after five years of being together and now they’re both living the single life. So after being out of the single life for a while this is basically new to them both. So Lawrence met a woman named Tasha who was a great catch.

She had sex with him whenever he wanted, talked, had some good and deep conversations, cooked for him, etc. Watching it made me think like damn Lawrence was really horrible at this dating life. Lawrence got a taste of the HOE life and Tasha was old news. He was never upfront with Tasha about what he wanted which was just to fuck. So it also led me to think about myself I never learned how to date. Because of that, I felt that was one of the main reasons why I didn’t know how to be upfront with my intentions. Ended up in relationships like that. Where it was extremely unhealthy. I had a Tasha and I was Lawrence and then Karma came around and in another relationship I was Tasha and the woman I was with was Lawrence. So it happened vise versa. But to make it long story short it was a damn train reck. Now back to the dating part. Don’t know how to date? Well take her out, and if it’s mutual that you both want to take it further then you fuck (have sex), eat pussy, make them have multiple orgasms, and a long list of other shit. I actually learned how to date from watching movies if you want to be honest. Through watching movies and following through with the dates I’ve realized over time that woman are way more advanced at dating then men. They come with basic expectations and we (MEN) only come with one expectation. Which is to fuck, when we gone fuck, and where we gone fuck. But don’t get me wrong woman can be just as shitty at it like us but we are just way behind than they are.
INTERLUDE….
I know it’s long but bare with me. I hope you’re enjoying the read. But now let’s circle back to being told……
NO!!
One of the hardest things that I’ve seen black men deal with is REJECTION. Like we really suck at that shit.
Does this sound familiar?
Man: Hey what’s good Ma?
Woman: Ignores him.
Man: YOOOOO you don’t hear me talking to you?
Woman: continues to ignore him.
Man: fuck you then BITCH YOU UGLY ANYWAY. FUCK OUTTA HERE.
For the life of me I never understood why is it that we have the tendency to call a woman out of her name because she isn’t interested or even attempt to put your hands on them. My dude it isn’t that serious. It sounds like you have some deeper issues homie….

But ladies if you just fucking and don’t see it going No where don’t invite him to no damn Family cook out, no type of trips, nothing dealing with family or your friends. Fuck and leave and that’s that. Fellas do not and I mean DO NOT ACCEPT THE INVITE to no cookout or any where else (yes I know your thinking damn that’s some free food but believe me it ain’t worth it.) you can respectfully say no if you both established boundaries early. Then she can’t trip or catch an attitude on you saying no in the first place…. Food for thought.
