So You Think You Can Pastor?
(A pastor’s kid’s perspective)
Are you a honest, decent human being with strong moral principles, with the most stead fast love for Christ that has a burden for sinners? Awesome! Because that isn’t enough. You Must Be Capable of Leading Others.
You Are To Be Available All Day Err’ Day. Someone just went to the ER Sunday morning at 3Am? Perfect! You better be at that ER! And Be ready to preach that message with strong conviction with two hours of sleep the night before.
Sunday- The Day of Rest? Forget About Itttt! Sunday’s, For Pastors, Is The Busiest Day of The Week. You will arrive to greet each member with a genuine smile despite your two hours of sleep. You may even teach a Sunday school class as well. May even lead the singing and sing a special and then maybe you will preach. You will preach and preach with all of your soul and all of your might only to be met with the solemn blank stares of the congregation and your wondering if they even heard a single word your heart just poured out.
No Matter How Awesome You Are, Some People Will Leave. It is inevitable. Even if it has nothing to do with you, it will probably feel personal.
You most definitely must be on guard for attacks from enemies outside of the church. It’s the enemy’s attacks from within, like Judas’ betrayal of Jesus, that break your heart the most.
(I wanted to marry someone that was a replica of my father. As a young girl I prayed to marry a strong preacher like my daddy. That all changed. At an early age the first time I had ever heard my precious, strong, loving daddy weep and sob in agony was over his church family. How could anyone in their right mind want a preacher for a husband if it was to cause such grief and pain? Just someone to attend church with me will do Lord! And, I never knew which was harder: trying to lead your people like Moses led the Israelites out of the land of Egypt, or being the wife that has to watch the betrayal as your husband is trying to lead his people to the promise land and just having to sit quietly).
No matter what you do, some people just won’t like you. You will never be good enough to please everyone.
Like it or not, the ministry will profoundly impact your personal family. Some families grow closer to the Lord together; others grow further apart. Ministry will either make the family better or bitter.
(No matter the obstacles that stood before my dad, No matter what the family, or church family seemed to do; he still managed to get up week after week and preach the Gospel. He would still preach despite his own personal burdens. When I thought surely he can’t take it any more, he would make a mean face and do The work of the Lord. I remember it being a rough period and he preached a message about having the weight of the world on your shoulders, but he reminded the congregation, “He’s got the whole world in his hands.” It just always amazed me at how someone could’ve been up for 24 hours or more straight and deliver such a powerful and spiritual message and no one even know the personal struggles he had just faced of his own. And how out of the 3,000+ messages I have heard none of them have been the same and I was able to apply something different to my life with each message).
But make no mistake, There is nothing greater than the reward of a life submitted faithfully unto Christ. You will suffer. It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it. Accepting God’s call to ministry is one of the greatest decisions you will ever make. You will have a front-row seat to see lives being changed, marriages mended, and prodigal sons returned. The impact you leave behind will outlive your life. Generations of families will change because you were faithful and did not give up. You are not the savior everyone needs; HE is.
(I guess that may be my dad’s reason for staying so faithful. I guess in the end it was worth it.
There’ve been many friends I’ve had
Since I started on this way;
Who have said, “I’ll go with you all the way.”
But they’ve turned and they’re gone,
Leaving me standing all alone.
But my LORD has been my friend all the way.
It’s been worth every mile
It’s been worth every trial
It’s been worth every valley that we’ve crossed
It’s been worth everything that we’ve faced in His sweet name
And it’ll be worth it all when we see His face).
Kaity McCarter the PK