Ship Wars: Convenience
We meet the best ones at the end, because they come when we are ready.
Relationships are more about convenience than involved parties are willing to admit. In a way, choosing what is convenient is selfish. I say 'in a way' because the face value definition of selfishness is viewed as bad. It’s honestly not listed as a stellar quality. Selflessness is more attractive. It is a better fit for the seeming ‘right person/perfect fit’ idea we tend to express regarding a partner whose qualities, and timing, line up properly enough with ours.
Readiness plays a huge role in determining whether or not a commitment will persist. That question of purpose regarding a relationship is all about the readiness. When a person is ready for something, they are completely accepting of what that thing is, even if it makes no sense in relation to other factors or even when it is contrary to previous declarations. A tell tale sign that a relationship, of any kind, could crash is when one party starts second guessing the point or purpose of that relationship. It means they are no longer (lol, you guessed it) ‘ready' to accept the terms and conditions of that current relationship. It’s no longer convenient — and we all know it makes no sense to choose inconvenience.
Except in situations where one party is clearly a bad fit for another, convenience is the determining factor for the long or short run health of a relationship. Convenience cuts across tangible and intangible factors. The game of love is really just the game of choice. We choose people who make it easier for us to maintain a certain level of personal status quo. Whenever we realize the impetus, that is our unbending loyalty to what we want, we excuse that feeling with a "He/She wasn’t the right fit". It’s easier to blame the other person, without giving reasons why, so as to satisfy the need to feel like we tried to love.
Relationships are coldly logical but aren’t treated as such — At least not on the surface. If they were, they would lose their appeal. The fantasy and/or feeling of falling (or seeming to fall in love) is what makes the industry worth getting involved in. It satisfies the emotional need most humans have. We gotta feel like it means something more than what it means.
The power of the industry however, stops at marriage. This is because the seriousness of the commitment doesn't allow for most people to jump ship when it's no longer convenient. Oh wait, there's something called Divorce. Ha ha. How convenient.
