in my school, a girl was almost raped by HER ORG MATE. the girl was in the car of the man and they were drinking alcohol (which is illegal because they were in the school grounds, btw). the man made the girl drink too much so that he can fuck her. he got the girl naked but the girl was on her period so fortunately, the fucking guy wasnt able to fuck her. and luckily, a guard passed by the car and caught the act by lighting the window of the car but the authorities were not able to talk to her because she was so wasted.
i talked to my dad about this and he said that girls get raped because girls give motives to guys. he said that why would the girl let herself drunk with a man alone.
i talked to a friend about this and she said that why would the girl join the man drink in the car in the first place.
i talked to another friend about this and he gave the same sentiments.
they sounded like it was the girl’s fault that she almost got raped.
i dont understand why they dont understand that they are org mates and they were friends and the girl trusted him. it’s just like you, asking for your opposite-sex-friend to accompany you to the mall because you need his/her/their opinion on something and that opposite-sex-friend said yes.
why would you allow yourself to be drunk with a person alone if you don’t trust the person, anyway? who would expect that she will get raped by her org mate, anyway???
it’s like they think that women are not free to get drunk. if women were raped because they were drunk, then it was their fault.
i’m sorry to say but i think it doesn’t work that way.
FORCED SEX IS A RAPE BUT
SEX WITHOUT PERMISSION IS ALSO A RAPE.
i dont understand why people dont get this.
GUYS ARE ONLY ALLOWED TO GET NAKED IN FRONT OF A GIRL IF THE GIRL WANTS THEM TO GET NAKED IN FRONT HER.
GUYS ARE ONLY ALLOWED TO HAVE SEX/MAKE LOVE WITH A GIRL IF THE GIRL WANTS THEM TO HAVE SEX/MAKE LOVE WITH HER.
if she said no, then it’s sexual harassment. no ifs, no buts.
i dont know how to emphasize this enough but please stop victim blaming. no one ever wants to get raped, idiots!!!
(p.s.: please remember that other genders (even men) experience rape too. :))