Perspectives – Note One
When you stand in front of your opponent and the umpire asks any of you two to call for heads or tails before the toss, say you shout, “Tails!” The umpire tosses the coin. As the coin drops down, back to the ground due to the gravity, all the three faces peep down to see and there goes the umpire, “Heads!”
Now what thoughts run through your mind? You feel you should have chosen heads or that the moment was not yours and it doesn’t really matter if you had chosen heads or tails?
When you look at a successful man, his thoughts or rather perspectives are the reasons for where he stands in life. If you had told the world, “Aye! I must have called for heads,” the world would have joined you with an yes or a may be at least. But think for a minute? Don’t you feel even a little that the latter is the truth of life?
“Both denote nothing but failure and so what difference does it really make if I give a thumbs up for the former or latter?”-pounces your mind to pull my collar right? Great minds think alike buddy! Now lets give those lines a deep thought…
Answer a simple question. What makes you feel bad, having travelled on a wrong path or having taken the longest route to your destination? This gives you the answer you are craving for. When you realise that you have taken a wrong decision of choosing tails, you seem to feel much more bad, weak and gullible than when you realise that it’s okay, the moment was not yours but you still have the game to decide the rest.
The agony and irritation of having taken a wrong decision kills you. There are always tricky ways of turning your scars into some positive energy that drives you at least one step closer to your goal. When you have learnt this trick, it means you have finally found yourself.
Maturity is not about age. It is not about growing into a man or a woman. It is about finding oneself. Finding oneself in their lives to reach goals. Finding oneself in others’ lives to stay patient and react with stability to situation that life pushes you to. Finding oneself until you know how to find your lost self in this crap world that deviates you way too much from your path to destiny.
All that the world cries is “I, me & myself.” In the world where the reason for a war or a calamity is the anger of a single person that can boom people and places to dust, you have least time to wake up to your own needs. Those were the days when boys and girls at the age of around twelve and thirteen were made to lead a family. Definitely they did not lose in their lives since we are fine, healthy and blessed with a minimal of basic needs being their descendants. When children at the age of twenties and above cannot decide on what needs to be done with their life, from where did that maturity to lead a life and take responsibility of the person who has come with all trust in you come to that kid of those ancient days?
Marriage at twelve is wrong, but you can never deny that the kind of parenting they do within the initial ten years of a child cannot be matched even after thirty years of parenting in today’s world. It is not about when you learn things. It is about how harsh the lesson was learnt that marks your footprints with blood and sweat for the future to follow you.
Perspectives differ. It is all about knowing how to separate the bad and good in anything that comes to your ears, be it personal or a social call and that is when you end up finding where you lie in this world of “I, me & myself!”