Two types of problems

QUALITY PROBLEMS involve a risky, forward-thinking decision

that will often take you to another stage of progress in your

life. Examples: career decisions, committing to a relationship,

committing to a new standard in life.

SAFE PROBLEMS are lingering, self-imposed feeling-states

which come from a lack of sustainable ways to meet one’s

needs and a lack of vision for one’s life. Examples: depression,

addictions, blaming others, avoiding decisions, withdrawing

from relationships. If you are getting upset without taking

action, or if you are upset about factors that are out of your

control (such as events in the past) then you are “maintaining”

a safe problem.