Originally published at lmt-lss.com on January 13, 2016.
Too many fights and too less love? Let’s get down to fixing your relationship problems.
When you start saying we need to talk more often than I love you; it’s a sign that your relationship is falling apart. Therefore, it becomes highly essential to fix the issues in your relationship before it’s too late. You need to be patient and devote due attention to the problems to ensure they are taken care of.
Here are seven ways to fix a relationship that’s falling apart:
1. Figure out the reasons.
Before trying to fix the loopholes of your relationship, you need to figure out the source of the problem. If you notice a change in your partner’s behavior, try to find out the possible reasons behind it. As you’re well aware of your partner’s likes and dislikes, finding out the reason and fixing the problem won’t be a difficult job.
2. Improve your communication.
Before getting into an argument, try being a good listener. Make sure that you always lend an ear to what your partner has to say. Fairly speaking, you can’t be the only one talking all the time. If you let them speak, it makes them feel valued and gives you a chance at understanding the issues better.
3. Spend more time with each other.
Try spending quality time with each other. Even if it involves doing something you’re not fond of, give it a try. Spending more time with each other will help you find out the real problem and then you can look for a solution accordingly.
4. Don’t bring up the past.
Whether it’s an ex or a long-forgotten fight, refrain from discussing the past. It will only make the situation worse by blowing things out of proportion. Focus on your present and fix the issues that are spoiling it. You can never be happy discussing what’s history.
5. Learn to forgive.
Forgiveness can help you save your relationship. Fixing your bonding problems is all about understanding each other and giving a second chance. Forget what happened in the past and start all over. It will help declutter your mind and prevent the past from clouding your judgments.
6. Learn to compromise.
Being in a serious relationship is all about making compromises. You can’t always have things your way. The sooner you accept this, the better chance you’ll have at fixing things. A relationship that’s on the verge of ending needs more compromises than a healthy one.
7. Talk about your feelings.
Don’t expect your partner to guess your thoughts and emotions. Instead, be vocal about your feelings. If you don’t talk openly about your expectations, your partner will never be able to understand your feelings. As a result, it will create a communication gap that’s too hard to fill.