Nine steps men can take to become better allies to co-workers, partners, friends, and family.

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While most men say that they want to support gender equality, a survey produced by Promundo in partnership with Bonobos reveals that they are not necessarily taking steps to reduce gender discrimination and harassment.

With Women’s History Month and International Women’s Day approaching, here are nine steps men can take to close the gap between intentions and actions when it comes to becoming better allies to co-workers, partners, friends, and family.

1. Listen to women and non-binary people, and acknowledge their experiences.

The first step toward becoming a better ally for gender equality is to listen to women and non-binary people, acknowledging that every person has a different life experience and…


Exploring the challenges of effecting feminist change within groups of men.

By SlamThePoet, Promundo Writing Fellow: a poet, producer, and facilitator interested in the individuals and communities that build and box us.

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Feminists have long been invested in exploring how politics bleed into our everyday personal lives. Men seeking to act as feminist allies will know this crossover well; Many face repercussions when challenging sexism in their social groups,¹ and the fear of retaliation is often enough to silence men who would otherwise stand against sexist bullying and harassment.² Men may be open about wanting to act in allyship, but doing so can be scary for a number of reasons.


Featuring conversations that shed light on key data, evidence-based approaches, and action steps to build healthy masculinity and achieve gender equality.

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Happy end of the year! As we wrap up 2020, we reflect on a year in which, despite uncertainties and setbacks, Promundo and partner’s research, programs, and advocacy work have positively contributed to ever-growing conversations around healthy masculinities and gender equality in the media.

Over the last year, Promundo and partners have supported evolving narratives when it comes to envisioning the future of gender policy; rethinking how employers can support parents and caregivers at work; shedding more light on the psychology of men’s sexual harassment; presenting a way forward for male partnership for gender equality; and more.

We have highlighted a featured article for each month of 2020, mentioning Promundo and our initiatives:

January: Apolitical quotes…


Facing the colonialist values upholding social and economic inequalities that undermine and disadvantage Black people around the world.

By Amílcar Sanatan, Promundo Writing Fellow: a writer and activist invested in political work to engage Caribbean men and boys in gender justice.

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George Floyd was executed in the streets of Minneapolis. Young women and men throughout the state and country protested, under the banner “Black Lives Matter.” They braved the pandemic of COVID-19 to resist a more historical, institutionally set, and barbaric pandemic of racism. Black people suffer disproportionately from police violence. In the US, Black people are three times as likely to be killed by the police than white people. The 2018 murder of twenty-six-year-old St. …


What works to prevent men’s violence against women?

By Gary Barker, President & CEO, Promundo-US

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From November 25 to December 10, we join thousands of organizations around the world for the 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-Based Violence Campaign. It has been 20 years that the campaign has been active. It has also been more than 20 years that Promundo has worked in partnership, first in Brazil and then internationally, to build an evidence base that affirms this: we can prevent men’s violence against women and girls.

The solution to ending this violence starts with calling it what it is…


Being an ally is about making change, not being comfortable.

By Quentin Thomas, Promundo Writing Fellow: a public policy student and peer educator exploring the intersection between writing and social justice.

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I remember during my sophomore year of high school when the protests in Ferguson were happening in the wake of Michael Brown’s murder at the hands of police. This was a formative moment for me as a young Black man coming into his own and developing his racial and political consciousness. I was definitely holding a lot of complicated feelings at the time, and so when I heard one of my peers say something along the lines of, “It’s…


Just like our jeans, our maleness can be thrown away and re-worked when they don't fit.

By Amílcar Sanatan, Promundo Writing Fellow: a writer and activist invested in political work to engage Caribbean men and boys in gender justice.

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Content warning from Promundo: This piece contains descriptions of violence.

“Be a man!”, said the police officer to my friend when he felt he didn’t speak clearly and loudly as he questioned him. The officer inquired about a fight that was going to take place on a Friday afternoon near my school. Higher up, boys occupied the sidewalks, stood in silent anticipation, in their uniforms, prepared for combat with iron bars, planks of wood, dog chains, bottles…


“i buried myself somewhere but for the life of me daddy. i can’t remember where daddy. or what it means to be lost and found.”

By Keith F. Miller, Jr., Promundo Writing Fellow: an award-winning educator, storyteller, and artist-researcher dedicated to redefining masculinity and rediscovering the healing power of everyday intimate conversations

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Content warning from Promundo: This piece contains descriptions of violence.

Reclaimer (instead of disclaimer): This is a story about witnessing and sharing my truth from lived experience, as a cisgender, Black, queer, male from the Deep South. …


Finding an ally’s perspective in Audre Lorde’s essay The Master’s Tools Will Never Dismantle the Master’s House

By SlamThePoet, Promundo Writing Fellow: a poet, producer, and facilitator interested in the individuals and communities that build and box us.

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Which me will survive | all these liberations. — Lorde, “Who Said It Simple”, 1973

Allyship is inherently related to change. On one level, this is pretty obvious: allies want to help change someone else’s life for the better. But even a slightly effective allyship requires great changes in one’s own life. It’s my view that genuine, effective allyship must shake and…


“If all you have is a Hammer, everything looks like Nails.”

By SlamThePoet, Promundo Writing Fellow: a poet, producer, and facilitator interested in the individuals and communities that build and box us.

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Illustration: Sam Petherbridge

The Man is born fully clothed, with Hammers for hands. He wears boots, a jacket, and in his sleeves he has no wrists. He has no palms, no fingers, nor thumbs, only long steel handles ending with a Hammer. On one side, long forked hooks stretch out like claws. On the other there is a pummel, its steel face flattened and hard.

His father holds him and he is cold. His mother holds him and he is hard. His…

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