How I found the mentor who would change the course of my life.

Building my own business

Seven years ago I started my own business at the age of 27. I was fresh out of college and full of ambition, not hindered by any knowledge of running a business. We started with a team of 4 people. My dental clinic, Ardent, was born on the 22nd of October 2012.

The business started doing very well within a year of two and I quickly grew tired of the challenge that I had seemingly completed. Unhappy, disillusioned and depressed I questioned what the purpose of my work was and how I would spend the rest of my life doing general dentistry.

Little did I know that he would inspire me to change the course of my life.

Finding a mentor

Looking for inspiration I went to Romania, where I attended a course by a talented and charismatic young dentist who was taking the world by storm. His name was Florin Cofar and little did I know that he would inspire me to change the course of my life. His vision on dentistry, business and life made a lasting impact on me and made me realise that I had to take massive action to steer my life in a different direction.

“You are the average of the five people you spend most time with.”

-Jim Rohn

Choose your friends carefully

Knowing that you are the average of the five people you spend most time with really forces you to take inventory of the people around you. I knew that I needed to have Florin in my top five. And five years after meeting him, we’ve become great friends and I had the privilege to be one of his groomsmen on his big day.

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finding friends in unusual places

The lessons that he has learnt me during the last five years are invaluable. Through him I met other people who’ve also found a place in my top five, inspiring me to explore further and see things in an even different perspective. I’ve come to realise that being in the proximity of extraordinary people is power. And this has made all the difference in my life.

You are the direct reflection of the top five people that you spend time with. Choose wisely!

When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.

Finding a mentor

Finding a mentor is not easy. In fact, when you believe you have found your mentor, it’s often very hard to get in touch with them and ask them to mentor you.

The most common made mistake is to find that person, and straight out ask them to mentor you. This approach almost never happens, since they probably get that question a lot.

Ask yourself, how can I grab their attention? Why should they even care? What do I have to bring to the table for this person? If you haven’t found the answer to that question, you’re not ready to be mentored.

But like the saying goes; when the student is ready, the teacher will appear.
And when that happens and you can bring value to the other person, you’ll see that your chances of them entering your top five will have increased considerably.

The top five

So who are going to be in your top five? Who are the people that you will surround yourself with? Go out there and explore, visit conferences and meetings. Look for friends in unusual places and explore the territories that are unknown.

Strive to be better every day and bring value to others. So that one day, when you’re ready, your teacher will appear.


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