3 Simple Steps to Getting Everything You Want
And What’s Keeping You From Getting It
You have a million things you want. Maybe a good job, a family, friends, to be fit, to stop smoking, to be rich- the possibilities are endless, and your list is pretty long. There’s nothing wrong with admitting what you want. I’ll be honest- I want to help people, but I also want to be able to live in a nicer house and send my daughters to a good school.
Ariana Grande says, “I see it. I like it. I want it. I buy it.” Now, Ariana may have wayyyy more money than you, but she’s definitely on to something. The steps to getting exactly what you want have a simple basic structure that make it completely possible to achieve your goals.
Be What You Want
Being, when you think about it, is actually pretty simple. And yet, we are constantly being what we don’t want to be. We’re being a cashier when we want to be an artist. We’re being a smoker when we want to be healthy. We’re being alone when we want to have friends.
I’m not saying the steps to getting where we want to be aren’t challenging. There are lots of tiny pieces in between where we’re at and where we want to be. But we have to start taking responsibility for where we are now and the gap between being what we dream of being.
As a personal example, when I first started working at Starbucks, I would sob while telling my ex-husband I never wanted to move up in the company. That being a store manager would be the worst thing that could happen to me. Why? Because I knew in my heart that wasn’t what I wanted to be. I knew I could do it, sure. I was capable. But like Marie Condo asks, “Does it bring you joy?” And while there were many things in my job that did bring me joy, overall- it just didn’t.
I let the title of store manager take over my entire life. When I left, one of my partners looked confused and said, “But you are Starbucks!” I was appalled because I knew I was so much more. When did I lose myself in this title that I didn’t want to be?
So I started being. I took some time just to be. Go to church, connect with my children, paint my nails- simple things really. When I decided to start writing, and putting things that were important to me at the top of the list, I knew I was starting to be.
It’s not always the easiest thing in the world. Quitting your job is scary. Getting fit requires a lot of changes. Putting yourself out there to make friends is intimidating. But coasting along being someone you know you aren’t, and don’t want to be, is so much worse. Start being.
Do: Take Action.
Know who you want to be? Have a clear image of that person? Great! Now, what are you doing about it? So many people have a lot of wishes; maybe they pray or try to manifest something into their life. But they never do anything to make it happen.
Here’s a quick story: A very devout woman wanted to win the lottery. She was a good person, so it seemed that God would grant her prayer. She prayed and prayed and prayed. Every day she prayed “Please, God. Let me win the lottery.” After praying for several years with no results, she got frustrated. She cried out to God, “Why can’t I win? Why won’t you answer my prayers?” And God said to her, “My dear, you never bought a ticket.”
Now, regardless of what you believe, you can see the metaphor. It’s great to dream. It’s great to have goals. It’s where everything begins. But if you never take action, nothing will ever happen. Anyone who says something just magically happened for them isn’t looking at the things they did to get there.
Maybe the money they needed to go to school made its way into their life. Great! That wasn’t magic. They filled out applications to reach their goals. I’m not saying there wasn’t a little bit of higher power involved, but Mother Earth, God, or any other being can’t help you if you don’t take action yourself.
Stop making lists that sit at the back of your notebook. Stop saying “I wish I could…” or “I can’t because…”. It’s all crap. You can. You’re so capable, it’s unreal. Stop dreaming of what you want to be doing. Just start doing.
Have What You Want
To go back to Ariana’s description of her life, “I want it. I got it.” She’s not giving you all the steps, sure. But I’ll lay it out for you. You have to be the person you want to be. Model your life after the best of the best. You want to be a CEO? Which CEO’s do you respect and admire? Learn and acquire the same skills (then be better than your role model 😉).
Do what you need to do to get where you want to be. Need to start eating better? Take action and research healthy eating plans. Some people have more resources than others- money, connections, privilege. But the resources you have internally are just as important. Your determination is a resource. Your passion is a resource. Don’t let where you’re starting tell you that you can’t do it. You can. You have everything you need.
Once you are being, and doing, the things you want will come. Maybe in little baby steps- you won’t be a millionaire tomorrow (even if you win the lottery, it will take some time for the money to get deposited 😂) but the path to having will be so much more enjoyable and exciting than letting your life just happen to you.
What are you doing?
One of my favorite sayings is, “You can’t edit a blank page.” So why are you waiting? Get out there! Start being! Start doing! Get everything you want; you deserve it. You are capable. You’re incredible.