Are Distance Readings Any Good?
The other day a reading revealed an unwelcome outcome. Over the phone my client wistfully said, “I wish I had been there to pull the cards myself.” Gently, I asked her why and she said, “If I was able to actually choose the cards, maybe I would’ve gotten something different.”
My client’s misconception is a big one. As I move my practice (for the time being) from a combination of in-person or online to phone and online only, many of my clients are uncertain whether tarot (or my ability to read them) will remain ‘as accurate’ as an in-person session.
One of the most common concerns is whether there is any difference in pulling the cards. The thing is is that tarot as a practice is incredibly non-dogmatic. There is no one right way to read tarot.
Tarot Rituals are Flexible
Some readers do not allow their clients to touch their deck at all, or they only pull cards from the top of the stack. Other readers allow their clients to hold, shuffle and pick the cards of their choosing. I have also seen some readers do intricate cuts: asking their clients to choose a pile, and I have watched as some online readers shuffle until the client says ‘stop’. There are about a thousand ways to deal with the physical aspects of reading cards! This is one of the many reasons that I love tarot so much. There is no standard ‘dogma’ beyond the basics. We are co-creating what we need direct from the source.
But here is the common denominator: a good reader will be just as good with any combination of card shuffling. The magic of a great tarot session comes from the reader, not the cards.
Sure, tarot is magical and wonderful and I make my living by using them but tarot is the hammer to my carpentry skill, tarot is the loom to my weaving ability. Tarot is the tool but the ability is mine and as long as you got me and a deck of any type (even playing cards) I am going to be able to give you a great session in-person, online or on the phone.
Connection is Paramount
Just like how that perfect hairstylist ‘just gets you’ and you would go to the ends of the earth to stay with her, your relationship to your reader has the same kind of energy resonance. Not every hairstylist works for every person, you have to find ‘your’ person. Does that mean that one stylist you saw one time and disliked is a horrible colorist? Usually not if they are actually in business. They didn’t work for you but are probably someone else’s favorite person.
The same thing goes for readers. There are some clients that for me are just extra easy to tune into, the readings are uniformly helpful, accurate, and on point, these are the majority. There are also some people who are difficult to read, whose readings can be problematic because our energy isn’t compatible. The point is that this connection has nothing to do with whether we are physically present. When in-person clients move to phone or video sessions and the readings are just as powerful as ever.
Physical Proximity Is Irrelevant
Another common misconception is that as the readee, the client needs to be near the reader and that her physical presence will influence the reading towards more accuracy. That’s not actually the case. In fact, any kind of analysis of clairvoyant abilities consistently show that physical proximity is irrelevant. We can look no further than the CIA’s top secret Stargate Program that recruited remote viewers to do things like find missing planes, look for kidnapped politicians, and determine military installations.
The take away here is that clairvoyant ability in most cases is not tied to physical proximity whether it be remote viewing, mediumship, clairvoyance, clairsentience or any of the known ways that people are regularly psychic.
Psychics are hired to find lost bodies, dowsers are hired to find lost items or water, mediums are used to communicate with the crossed over. They are successful due to the skills of the intuitive, not because of proximity to the best friend of the missing person, owner of the ring, daughter of the dead father. It simply is totally irrelevant in many cases.
There are reasons why this is so (quantun physics-spooky actions at a instance string theory, etc.) but that is another article entirely. Suffice it to say, when you examine this closely, the argument for proximity falls apart.
Phone Readings Are Massively Effective
Honestly, phone sessions are when I do some of my best work meaning that I get to the crux of the information that unlocks the session more quickly and find that the readings tend to hit home more accurately over time.
The reason why I believe this is so is that is is that my visual inputs are a distraction and not a help. What you are wearing, how your hair is styled, your facial expressions and your body language get in my way. When I am on the phone, I do not have to fight the natural tendency of being influenced by nonverbal cues.
A client crossing her arms and deeply frowning can throw me off. Social approval is an incredibly powerful influence, even for readers. Especially readers who have to plow through with the message regardless of how a client may react. On the phone I am less likely to pick up on resistance in this way which means I am not being influenced by the client to deliver a message in a particular way.
There is the subtle, strange miracle of tarot. Like life (or Jurassic Park) Tarot finds a way. Even when I pull out the worst cards in the deck, tarot will find a way to get its message across. Even if I pull out half the deck, tarot will make sure it uses the cards to speak to truth.
How does it work?
I don’t know.
I just know it does. The aggregate of thousands and thousands of readings has revealed to me a freaky truth that is irrelevant to spatial concerns.
But what does matter is respect. What does make a difference is intention and motivation and I know this is true because when I am reading tarot at public events and if someone is drunk, or disrespectful, laughing with their friends and not paying attention then the cards make no sense to me. It is as if the cards turned into a language I no longer understand. This is the only time that it seems to actually matter.
Tarot is a playful, curious, flexible, independent ally. Along the edges, tarot follows its own rules. Completely unconcerned about time, space, or logistics it demands something deeper, something more real. Have faith in that, and also in my ability to deliver it.