I always thought colour blindness or the “melting pot” is a mirage. The “burden” of not being white in a majority white society is always there, even if the majority rarely mentioned it, based on my personal experience. The trick I think is to blend the two identities (e.g. non-white face/background with white values) together harmoniously, rather than saying “I’m just like everybody else/I’m white inside” or “I’m not one of them and never will be”.
Like all the fingers on your hand, each finger is different, and it is futile to argue that one finger is “just as good” or “essentially no different” than the others. Nor is it constructive to focus exclusively on the distinctiveness. What matters is that each finger together will function harmoniously as a whole.
I hope this helps.