I’m not happy with what happened, but I also know they panicked. They specifically hired me because they don’t understand the internet. So I can’t be too angry that they reacted badly, given they don’t understand the internet. I see it as more unfortunate than anything. I wouldn’t encourage anyone to cancel their subscription, but tell them when…
honestly in the long run, i’d like to spend some time talking to people about what’s worked and what hasn’t. this should be a big, long collaborative project, and not just me pontificating, i’d dearly love to see that resource built.
Doesn’t this amount to we should continue doing this bad thing because we do this other bad thing? But if you want a reason to treat this act in any special way, I gave it in the piece: to prevent more of it happening. Interceding can help break cycles of abuse. Whatever people’s desire for revenge, I believe the next victim is more important.
Outing him is the wrong way to put it. Talking about what happened, plainly, openly, and facing it, if need be in public, is key to recovery. If you want him to make it, this is part of the hard medicine of real recovery.
Keeping things soft and quiet is part of preventing people from finding their bottom, and sometimes, the people who love addicts kill them this way.