Women should not imagine they’re alone in thinking that way. If I hadn’t met my best friend later, I might have felt that way ever since I was 25. I’m college-educated and white too, but I don’t imagine my loneliness was somehow based on race or education level, or that if I had a different race or education level it would somehow make people rush to my aid.
You haven’t said what the “women’s adolescent curriculum” is or how it teaches you “to learn how to hate yourself for everything you are and everything you’ll never be.” In order to get the sympathy you seem to be seeking outside the realm of shared experience, you’ll need to explain what it is specifically you’re talking about. And if you want change, you’ll need to promote a vision of the changes you want to see in society.
At least you, like the women singing, have a big audience. People listen to you. Most of us can’t say the same.