Self-Awareness

You Don’t Have to Be Normal to Be Happy. But You DO Have to Be Yourself or Weird Doesn’t Work.

Trust me, I’m an expert at making “weird” work

Rachel A Fefer
6 min readSep 12, 2023

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I always use my “channeling Hunter S.” photo for these “deep thoughts” pieces. It seems appropriate…for LOTS of reasons ;) (Author’s Photo)

If you asked me what I wanted to be growing up, I wouldn’t have said “castle dwelling zombie lawyer.”

But a near death experience and a snap marriage proposal made me one anyway. Even though I lost the castle, and the marriage, it’s still a pretty cool backstory.

Much of my life is almost surreal to me as I write these stories because it’s been so goddamn weird, but it seemed so normal while it was happening.

Well…not normal, exactly… but I can try to explain.

Maybe it’ll help you deal with feeling like you’re not on the same page, or even in the same library, as the rest of the world sometimes.

Do Your Own Thing, Just Don’t Be a Dick About It

I was raised by the woman who invented Uniflo Motor Oil for Exxon back in the 1950’s, so the definition of “conventional” female behavior has always been a mystery to me.

I just did what I did. My boobs never figured into my side of the equation.

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Rachel A Fefer

Human in training - “Standards, no matter how minimal, are important”