There are many issues presented here which are either not historically accurate, theologically lazy, or both.
First is the attestation that one can simply read and interpret the Bible in a way that is contextually applied today. The reasons for this are numerous. Let me however just give you a few. First, scholars believe that the four canonical gospels were written from other sources. Those sources are lost to time, or have not been recovered. Secondly the writings we do have, have been rewritten and mis-translated thousands of times. Finally there is no evidence of a covenant with God that involves upholding the Bible as their word.
So therefore, you can’t just say “well the bible says…” and have any credibility.
Marriage, in Biblical times, especially amongst Jews (which I will remind you Jesus was), was a contract between men. You can marry my daughter and you will give me a goat. But homosexuality? Was a normal part of life. In fact it was so well accepted there are many Roman writings about its acceptance. To say “marriage is between a man and a woman” is simply not accurate, meaning it wasn’t a choice made my adults and out of love, but a social contract.
Paul, was not an Apostle of Christ (although he would have liked to be) wrote some letters to congregations…several which cannot even be attributed to him. Ergo, to say “Paul said…” isn’t really accurate because there is no proof the letters are real or if he even wrote them.
So, Pastor. I’m not sure what your ‘I love you but you’re beneath me” is about. But you can’t love people while holding them under your heel. Just like the Pharisees told Christ they loved him but he couldn’t possibly be the messiah. I’d suggest the time for this bad theology is over, as is reflected in the diminished church attendance in the developed world. I have a novel suggestion. If you really love people then love them. That’s all you need to do. No qualifications required.