What is True Forgiveness?
Forgiveness is a quality that is absolutely crucial for our peace of mind or any peace and harmony within this world because in today’s age there is rampant inclination for quarrel and hypocrisy. If we cannot forgive, then there is no possibility of any relationships surviving on any level — whether it is husband and wife, , between friends, neighbors and between various academic groups, and between nations.
The nature of this world is that it is under laws. Just like there is the law of gravity, which means everything in nature goes down. A structural engineer’s whole service is to somehow or other battle against the law of gravity — to build the structure that will stay up despite the natural tendency to collapse. And there are so many impediments to keeping it up. Similarly, there are so many stimulants in this world to drag everything down, especially our consciousness and our relationships. Without the quality of forgiveness everything sacred in life must collapse.
Maintaining resentment, hatred, and vengefulness affects our own heart. Someone hurts us and we are angry, we feel that our rights have been violated. It is like picking a burning hot coal and “from that toxic deadly poison that destroys our spirituality, our emotional content, our health, and also potentially of all those who are around us. If we withhold the free choice to forgive someone, we simply remain a victim of whoever has hurt us or abused us. We are really only a victim until we can get that poison out of ourselves through the art of forgiveness.