Misconception of Love
This past summer I met a boy who I instantly clicked with. Just as we do in my generation, we started texting every single day, up to the point where I couldn’t leave my phone aside for more than an hour because it would blow up with messages from him. It was a paradox; we spoke infinitely through text messages, yet when we were face to face, words couldn’t find their way to our mouths. Once I even forgot how his voice sounded. When we saw each other it took hours to get us used of our non-virtual selves, and then when we were comfortable around each other, it would be time for us to be broken apart again for more hours, and sometimes days.
Our virtual relationship was so weak that we would fight every single day, over the smallest things. We would then make up and promise to love each other forever, but then fight again the next day. I would make plans with him, which he would cancel every time, making up any excuse that came in the way. Even my best friends started telling me to break up the relationship, since it was changing me, making me anxious and a totally different person. He would get drunk and his friends would call me at 3 am telling me to come pick him up, or help him sober up. Yet, when I would be in a similar situation he would abandon me and send his “followers” to help me.
Countless times a day I got lost in my own mind, debating the pros and cons of breaking up with him. Would he be mad? Would he put all my friends against me? I was battling with my own self, expressing my anger at my friends and family in consequence.
At the end, I decided it was time to break it off. His presence was making me so mad that I would let myself affect other bonds I had with other people.
Albert Einstein once said, “I fear the day that technology will surpass our human interaction. The world will have a generation of idiots.”
Technology, the double edged sword, had limited us from digging a deep ground to start building the relationship. Even though we chatted daily, we didn’t really get to know each other, and then got disappointed when one of us did something we weren’t expecting them to do.
Our relationship was created by the “Wonderful world of Whatsapp”. Technology overruled our interaction and made us so confused that we let ourselves get carried away by the negative dynamic of the relationship and became trapped in our own minds.
Thousands of people get carried away by these types of relationships, getting to know someone so poorly by technology that you are not aware of the negative characteristics they have. These people are either too scared to get out of the relationship, by the fear of being alone again, or too scared to stand up to the other person and break it off.
However, it’s not their fault… it’s technology’s fault. It has already started conquering our world, and we cannot let it keep affecting so many more relationships and bonds. It’s time for us to realise we are starting to get trapped in a fake world, where the only hand that extends to help us get up is our conscience.