From my recent experiences in life here is the thing, I don’t believe in conventional “committed” relationships we call dating specially at this age.
According to me, its absolutely brilliant to be involved as BFF’s, just friends or even in a no strings attached relationship but a conventional “committed” relationships specially at this age is “just not happening”

Being a true libran, I like to look at things rationally. Imagine dating to be a business deal having clauses. It shouldn’t be too difficult to take it as a partnership agreement between 2 parties, complete with both sides agreeing to certain tasks and clauses like, “this relationship can be terminated in case any party indulges in any business with a third party” and so on.
Of course it has certain favourable clauses, for example, a good company to do things, to get an entry at various places along with many other things but my problem are with 3 clauses that come along with a conventional relationship.

Clause 1 under question: You are required to share your strengths, problems and basically everything with a person.

Now, call it the age I am in or just my nature, I am quite ambitious as a person. I dream of being the HRD minister of India and even owning Manchester United. I have a bucket list consisting of things from travelling to 100 countries to learning 10 different languages along with a few things not to be mentioned in public and I believe being in a “conventional” relationship restricts you from being ambitious, needing or requiring you to be weak.

If you truly want to be committed, you need to share the side of you which nobody knows. The side which is scared, which is unsure, which is weak and being the person I am, I don’t want to do that. Why the f**k should I tell anybody how I feel, if I dont want to. I would rather keep it to myself. I personally think I am strong enough to manage myself and my problems.
Quite a fair thing to do? Right?
But here is the thing, if you don’t share what you are feeling with the other half, you are apparently not being honest or open enough. Something which might be interpreted as , “you are not serious enough.”

Spare me my peace of mind. I have people with whom I can share the things I want to, good enough, isint it?

Clause 2 under question: You are required to be talking and being in touch with the other person quite consistently.

I don’t like to talk too much specially on phone and the expectations which comes along with a relationship regarding being in touch, is something I am really bad at. You have to be calling the person at regular intervals and infact be disciplined about it.
If only, I could be so regular in staying in touch, my mum would be so much more happy with me and life would have been so much more sorted.

Further the phase I am in, I like to give priority to work more than anything else. Of course I am fun and have different interests, but I would much rather talk about Marketing or starting up than films or relationship issues. With the career just starting, networking and building circles should be more important than hanging around with the same person again and again.

I mean business, and I think its fair to do that at this age.

Clause 3 under question: You are required to be loyal and exclusive to the person.

I was actually a big fan of this till a while back but somehow I feel it adds too much burden, controversies and unnecessary tension. Seen quite a few examples. I believe, this is the age to go out and experiment, I simply don’t understand the need to hold oneself self back.

In a summary here is the thing, being committed weighs you done. Holds you back. Stops you from doing what you could have and often makes you choose between love and ambition. Don’t believe me? Watch, Yeh Jawaani Hai Diwani or Aashiqui 2 for examples. As much as I like these movies, I hate the fact that some stupid assholes give up their dream for a girl in these movies. Bleh!
Dating/Committed relationship is a brilliant and a beautiful concept after a certain age and I think I will be good and loyal at it too once getting involved in one, but when you are in your early 20's, having a possibility to see and do so much in life, why will anybody want to chain oneself down?
I simply don’t understand, how can anything be more important than establishing yourself, standing up on your own and following your ambitions specially at this age with a life time ahead to commit and follow a flat life. For now, travel the world, experience different kinds of food, meet new people, become rich, be romantic, go out with friends and live life.

There are so many things to love. Love your dream, love your family, love your friends, love people around or for god’s sake, love yourself and take selfies, but whats the need for finding love just to date someone.
Its here I like to quote a friend,

“naming my relationship as “just seeing” “dating” “together” is just inappropriate. I really want to test the justification of any set standard and understand why there is a need to label everything. That is the point — labels are for things. Not people..”

Even if you want to fall in love, do that. But why follow the same old clauses? Why follow the conventional dating? In this generation of innovation, why not innovate around this too?

Incase you do innovate around your relationship or have experiences to share, I would love to hear. Do write back ☺