I don’t celebrate my BIRTHDAY

rajan win
rajan win
Jul 10, 2017 · 2 min read

Yes, I am talking about those days that we are incessantly celebrating every year for everyone.

Even google makes notes of it and wishes me. (Google’s so kind)

I get epiphanies from time to time. One of my latest breakthrough is in celebrating birthdays.

On my birth, I didn’t accomplish anything significant. My mother went through a lot of pain. It’s said in India, that when a women gives birth, she’s reborn.

If I should celebrate my birthday I should probably celebrate it with my mother, by buying her a large cake, treating her with gifts and what not.

From last year, I have stopped making my birthday about me and started making it about my mother. I bought her gifts on my birthday.

Since I don’t believe in people celebrating their own birthday. I have stopped wishing my friends and family on their birthday.

It’s sort of hard to deviate from wishing a person when you very well know their birthday and also they expect a heartfelt wish from you.

So, don’t expect me to wish you “Happy birthday” anymore.

I don’t understand why it’s necessary for us to make our birthday as an occasion for something special. It’s not like we have achieved something miraculous through hard work and grit. Sure! life itself is a miracle. But, we didn’t do much work on our birth.

Our mothers and doctors would have done the work. Not us. So stop making it about you.

These days, a typical birthday of a middle aged person goes by wearing new clothes, cutting cakes, distributing sweeting, giving expensive treats to friends and family at restaurants and finally a pseudo culture called “birthday bumps”, wherein you will be kicked mercilessly by your friends on your butt.

Instead we could make use of the day to be retrospective and decide how we wish to tread in our future.

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