Hello you. Yes you, the one over there feeling sorry for herself because the universe did that totally predictable thing it does by not moving in your favor.

It’s time you realised something honey… Life. Moves. On. So should you.

This is not an inspirational post or God forbid one of those stupid swag notes. This is your life. And yeah, you don’t have your act together, that’s okay. But make a plan to at least try and get it there.

Remember your first job? At the end of the month you had to stay extra time to do stock take and you’d hate every second of it. Well it’s time to do an emotional stock take. Oh yeah baby, it’s time to use that fat noodle of yours and figure some things out.

First things first. Figure out where in life you are and then compare it to where you want to be. I know, this can be quite daunting as it may lead you to the conclusion that you’re nowhere close to the finish line. But any journey starts with a single step. So get moving fat ass.

Second order of business; give yourself some credit. I’m only going to say this once because I don’t want you thinking you’re the bees knees and all but, you have made it this far and you haven’t resorted to drugs, alcohol or any other extremes which means that you are pretty bad ass. Acknowledge where you came from even if it’s only been a small journey to where you currently are. It’s improvement. Cut yourself some slack, you’ll get there eventually. Progression does not always mean rapid change, sometimes its a small step in the right direction.

This third point is very important — stop comparing yourself to others at your age and stop letting your mom do it too. Just because your cousin is now happily married with a family does not mean that you should be too, your time will come. Quit scrolling through Facebook looking at your friends’ graduation and engagement pictures and thinking you missed out on something in life. We don’t live in a simulation! You don’t HAVE TO live your life in a particular order despite what society dictates. Get rid of the disillusion of thinking that where you are now is not good enough. It is. Know that you are exactly where your creator intended you to be, but it’s only up to you where you to go next.

The last and final point would be to stop making excuses and start moving. If you’re not at a good place right now, you have a short period of time to feel sorry for yourself and then you need to put on your big girl panties and handle your business darling. No one else will — it’s your business after all. Draw up a plan and make small efforts every day. This is your narrative and only you can shape it.

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