Yet again the trans community find themselves in the middle of the ongoing culture war. As conservative lawmakers make a push to stay stagnant on social issues they don’t understand and don’t care to. This time they are taking aim at our youth, but the tactics are the same.
“This is about safety,” ”this is to protect our daughters’’ — they will say. They will cry about kids being unable to make that kind of decision at such a young age. They will talk about a mythical advantage that will ruin girls sports. All the while failing to see us…
I see a bunch of friends going off on an article from a conservative Christian website (https://biblicalgenderroles.com/2020/07/16/7-steps-to-grooming-your-christian-wife/) The article gives instructions on how to groom your young wife to be a “ godly woman”. This isn’t new, they feel emboldened now to push harder.
When my wife and I were involved with the local church. We wanted to become better at being a couple. The church would offer marriage retreats to work on issues and talk about what a godly home looked like. One of the things that always seemed odd to me. When it came to talking about sex…
By Rachel McCartney
June 22nd, 2019
On the 21st of June, I went to a doctor's appointment. It was a consultation to set up my Orchiectomy. The date that looks likely will be July 19th. Since walking out of the doctor's office I have been going through some deep thoughts. I have been weighing if this is something that I want. If it is worth the pain that will come. I keep coming back to yes. The question keeps coming. the questions are normal. This is a big thing happening. It feels like it needs thought. Anyway, I thought I…
By Rachel McCartney
About 6 years ago I got kicked in the groin. It was bad enough that I was out of work for a week and had to have an ultrasound. At my last doctor’s appointment, I was told it would still be painful for a little while. 2 years later it still hurt. I went for a new ultrasound and I was told they saw nothing wrong and that sometimes they just hurt. For the last 6 years, I have dealt with pain and how it just wears you out. Last week I missed a step taking the…
How the Southern Baptist church has members rat other members out.
By Rachel McCartney
In 2014, the Baptist general assembly issued a resolution dealing with transgender people. I was a member of a Southern Baptist church at the time. At the same time, I was also dealing with my own gender identity, but I hadn’t come out to anyone yet. I guess I was hoping that the church would be okay with it. Instead what I read was a document that used every conservative trope to make Trans people out to be the new Boogie Man of the church. …
Cutting the “lifeline”
As of March 1st at around 8am I have started my 1st ever social media fast. The reason I'm doing this is lately I have been seeing how much of my time has taken up by social media. I caught myself watching other people living there life while I sat back and wished I could live mine. Social media was my lifeline when I 1st came out. It was a way to connect to other trans people. It gave me a place where I felt I belonged. I have made many friends on Facebook and Instagram even…
It’s always a bitter pill.
Before I came out I imagined it would be a scorched earth affair. I thought I would lose everyone I cared about. After I came out to my wife and she didn’t go running for the hills, I’ll admit I got my hopes that I wouldn’t lose anyone. Looking back I see that there were some that would never accept me for who I am. Those didn’t hurt as much., What has hurt are the ones that I was sure they would understand. One such rejection was from our daughter’s Godmother.
We had met at church years ago and became…
My story
By Rachel McCartney
This pride season I wanted to tell you my story. I am the child of two people that were running away from their families. They shouldn’t have never gotten married but they did and they had me. My earliest memory is wearing my moms boots. They were navy blue and had a small heel on them. I loved those boots and wore them whenever I could. I was also told that I was a boy and thus the boots were off limits. I guess you could say that was my first clue that I wasn’t…
By Rachel McCartney
I tried to hide
Going around as someone i'm not
All the time worried I would be found out
Vacantly searching for happiness
Emphatically finding emptiness
Understanding finally came
Proudly I gave up.
I’m a night owl.
The thing is, when I’m alone in the dark, my brain goes into hyper-drive. Thoughts moving through my head at the speed of light can be an amazing experience, but like most things, there is a downside to my brain’s hyper-drive capabilities. Sometimes the thoughts are too fast to grasp, and the one that is the worst is what we will call “The Devil.” It is a single thought that even though it is moving at light speed can poison my whole thought stream.
It might sound small but the thought is simple at first. Something…
