Smart people and Assertive people
Smart people are people who adjust to situation and give enough room for others to breath and interact are smart people.
Assertive people are people who orders, commands, to get what they want. They think they are always right. They try to occupy whole room and not give space for others to breath and interact.
Assertiveness is externally induced behaviour in people in personality development trainings (Like Landmark, Art of living, NLP, counselling courses etc) . These courses create new circuits in mind to speak.
Examples:-
Smart-Men-Example
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A house has 4 brothers doing business. Each one wants to make profit, build wealth.They keep arguing and fighting over rights/property etc.
One person withdraws from fight and let others win. He constructively engages with each of them. He ensures smooth function of all.
This is smartness.
What others see:-
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Others see smart people as weak people. It is natural tendency to help weaker person, when he is working for your welfare.
The smart person has given space/room for others to freely interact with him, without fear of loosing money, wealth.
At time of need, all will be willing to help smart people.
Smart-Women-Example
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A house-wife, has to make time for different people in house. Each have different tastes, Timings are different, Some are working against her some in favour of her.
The house-wife, does not get time to fulfil her own wishes and needs. She ignores her needs to fulfil others needs.
She ensures everybody has breathing space. She ensures they are communicating well. She takes brickbats without giving back.
To see smart-ness here (see some more below examples for clarity)
What others see:-
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See this person as weak person. They all feel comfortable in her presence. They are assured, she won’t attack them.
Both her friends and enemies are not threatened by her.
She is a undeclared king whose presence gives life for others.
At time of need all will come forward to help her.
Assertive-Women-Example
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As soon as housewife comes home, she will start ordering, “this has to be that way”, “this way”.
She tells my right to not do this. When ever her work is over, she dumps people who helped her.
When ever she needs some work, she will go to them.
Her behaviour is unpredictable.
What others see
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They will think she is crazy. They will be waiting to teach her a lesson.
When she is in trouble, nobody will help her.
She is a undeclared villain in house
Assertive-Men-Example
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He will come with his list of things to achieve. He does not care what others think of him. he wants to achieve what he
wants.
When ever his work is over, he dumps people in dustbin.
No empathy, inclusiveness, willingness to be inclusive.
His goal is only to win.
What others see
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They will think he is evil. They will be waiting to teach him a lesson.
When he is in trouble, nobody will help him.
He is a undeclared villain in house
Summary:-
1. Assertive people may succeed in short run.
2. Smart people will succeed in long run.
3. Assertive person fills the room with his rules and conditions.Nobody gets chance to speak.
4. Gradually people leave the room where assertive person is present.
5. Gradually assertive person leaves the home, since nobody accepts his assertiveness.
6. Assertive person lives a lonely life.
7. Smart people will enjoy when ever he gets chance. Ensures “We” is more important that “I”.
8. Assertive person wants only “I” have to win.
Note:-
If you know a assertive person, Do forward this link to him/her.