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Let’s Stop Women Sexualization

Have you ever search on the internet the words ‘sexy’ or ‘sexual’? If you have not, go ahead and do it, tell me, are you surprised by the results? I was certainly not. When I searched the word sexy all I saw was attractive women and lingerie. I searched the word ‘sexual,’ and I felted disgusted for what I saw because images of girls being sexually touched pop-up and some of them showed discomfort on their faces.

Why do we get these results when searching these two words that are initially not gendered?

“filtered photography of woman wearing fishnet leggings” by Kira Ikonnikova on Unsplash

Let’s start by defining sexy and sexual. Merriam Webster offers two definitions for sexy: generally attractive or interesting and sexually suggestive or stimulating. Now, Encyclopedia also gives two definitions for sexual: relating to the instincts, physiological processes, and activities connected with physical attraction or intimate physical contact between individuals and of relating to the two sexes or gender. We just read that these two words are not about women and how they are sexualized. The definition for sexual even mentions how is related to both female and male.

For many years women have been seen as the weaker sex, as objects, and property. We’ve seen in history that women roles have changed throughout the years, but have they receive the equality they deserve?

Unfortunately, women had become slaves of society even when society made us believe that we have changed and become equal. During the Victorian Era, women were seen as property. A wife was not allowed to express herself, was not allowed to enjoy sex with their spouse, and was consider a ‘baby machine.’ Women had no right to give their opinion; they were not allowed to decide if they wanted to be a mother or not. Women were slaves of motherhood and men.

In this century, things have changed but not to benefit women. In Western cultures, women are being sexualized to a point where they’ve become slaves of sex and media. Think of the many commercials where a ‘hot chick’ is promoting something unrelated to their attractiveness. Let me give you an example, the Carl Jr commercial with Charlotte McKinney.

Don’t get me wrong, I support and respect women who want to show their body and work with it. We’re all different, and some people love to model, there’s nothing wrong with this. What’s wrong is what society has made out of these models. Many people don’t open their horizons and are led to believe that ALL women are supposed to show off their bodies. Sexism cause people to think that women are incapable of doing other productive activities other than showing their body.

As social beings, I’m afraid sexualization of women is affecting our young girls. Many young girls tend to believe that they need to be pretty to be noticed and sometimes to be successful. A friend of mine who’s studying mechanical engineering expressed the following:

Several times during my first two college years I’ve been told that I should do something else. I’ve been told that mechanical engineering is not for women because we can’t do the dirty work. It got to a point where my GPA went from 3.8 to 2.3, it’s hard to trust myself when other people look down on me.

Women can be successful as much as any other person who tries and works hard. We need to change our mindsets and understand that anyone, doesn’t matter their sex, can accomplish anything. Women are allowed to show off their bodies but not to please society, but to please themselves. Women should feel safe with their career choice. We should not care about their looks; we should care about their wellbeing and their emotional and professional growth.

When men are oppressed, it’s a tragedy. When women are oppressed, it’s tradition.
— Letty Cottin Pogrebin
“she believed she could so she did tabletop board decor in between of open bottle and vase” by Hello I’m Nik on Unsplash