I recently gave up my Keurig coffee maker for a more traditional french press. For me, this meant taking an additional 10 minutes in the morning to get my cup of dark, heavenly nectar. But why would I do that? (Aside from the fact that it tastes better…)

In an age where we can get nearly anything we want instantly, and where life moves at a million miles an hour, I started to think about the negative affects this might have. Growing up as a millennial has had its pros and cons. Pros obviously including things like the internet, modern medicine and awesome video games. But it’s not all sunshine and roses.

My entire generation, and the generations following, have become addicted to their cell phones, online shopping, and other types of instant gratification. You don’t even need to get off your couch to buy groceries anymore. Relationships are forged via a screen, rather than through awkward conversations in the waiting room or coffee shop line. And with a place like the internet where anyone can have an opinion with total anonymity, everyone has become so quickly offended.

What does this have to do with coffee? I wanted to slow things down. I look at the men of yesteryear and see men who took charge in the work place, who loved their wives and children and didn’t run away when times got tough. I see strong, fit warriors leading the home front and wonder what has happened. Of course exceptions to the rule still applied, but the family was actually a family most of the time. My opinion may be unpopular and might offend you. But I’m willing to take that risk. Why are so many men today effeminate, or weak, or lazy, or fat? I can’t help but think that easy times have led to soft men, and that we need some hard times to create hard men.

I think there can be a tremendous opportunity to grow as a man by taking a look back and doing a few things the vintage way. Don’t use an instant coffee maker. Take the stairs. Get off your phone when talking with people or while watching your children. Learn to read an analog clock, and get a real watch. Read real books. Hit the gym a couple times a week. Put effort into wearing a decent looking outfit. Go to church. Eat healthy food (and eat some red meat once in a while).

When we slow down, we begin to notice other people around us. We begin to feel the breeze when it’s hot out. We realize real life is more beautiful than ultra HD screens. When we put effort into how we look and how we interact with other people, we earn the respect of our families and co-workers. Our relationships become deeper and stronger. Life is better.

Let’s take a little of the “good old days” and make our time “the good right now days”.