Be your own Best Friend
Have you ever had a best friend? It’s fun to have a best friend, especially when the friendship lasts. What is a friend, after all? A good friend should be a bonus, not an obligation. A best friend is someone you can trust with your deepest secrets, rely on in moments of crisis and celebrate meaningful life events with. A best friend is someone who realizes you that yes you are the best. He/she listens when you are silent, sees what you don’t show, feels what you actually feel. He/she actually shows you your true self and stays with you, no matter how good or bad you are in every aspect of life.
But, now things have changed. We have more responsibilities and less time. We have no one to share the time, happiness, loneliness,anxiety, problems, solutions and everything related to life….. yes, we have lost…..yes, we are losing…losing every single thing. We are completely lost in our individual lives that we have started losing our own-self. But, what we can do is to move on, having no complain with others, join your self, to be yourself, to be your….Best friend. But developing the skills to be your own best friend means you can rely on your own judgment and be your own source of comfort when you need advice or support.
No one can do for you what you need to do for yourself. I don’t want to be a burden to my friends with every little problem I have — I want to enjoy my friends and want them to enjoy being with me. If you expect someone to be there all the time, you might end up disappointed. The older you get, the more you will see how busy everyone can be. It’s not that your friends don’t want to be there for you; sometimes they just can’t be there for you. Instead of relying on everyone else, you need to rely on yourself.
As your responsibilities increase, your time alone decreases. If you don’t pay attention, you can lose your sense of self in your work and close relationships. When the majority of your time is spent working and your free time is spent socializing, you’ll have little (if any) time left over for you.
Friends are nice to have and many will come in and out of your life. The most important and long lasting friendship is the one you have with yourself. Be your own best friend. Develop a relationship with yourself. Depend on yourself. When you need to work something through, take some time to be with you. When you have a strong friendship with yourself, you will have better friendships with everyone else. When you’re not a burden but are an easy-going friend, you’re the very best kind of friend for others to have.
Time won’t stop or suddenly become available. You’ll never find time to do the things you want to do; you must schedule time for the things that are most important to you. You need to make yourself a top priority. It isn’t selfish to take time for yourself; it is essential to your overall well-being. Whether you set aside a few minutes or more each day, the time you set aside for you is yours. It’s your time to unwind, your time to think, and your time to do whatever you choose to do. If you don’t set aside time for yourself and make it a priority, who will?
Set aside time to unplug and unwind. Turn off the phone, the television, the computer, and even the clock. When you unplug outside distractions, you will be able to plug into yourself. Take some time each day to get away from all the busyness and noise you’ve become accustomed to. Instead, use that time to listen to your thoughts or to clear your mind and think of nothing at all. You can use this time to read, listen to music, take a shower, or call it a night and go to bed a little earlier.
Set aside time to journal. Journaling is good for your health. The simple act of putting your thoughts on paper is highly therapeutic. Journaling can help reduce stress, resolve problems, and help you understand yourself better. You don’t have to be a good writer to journal. You don’t have to worry about what to say. You don’t have to read what you write to get the benefit, nor allow anyone else to read it either. Just put your pen to the paper or your fingers to the keyboard and let yourself go. Clear your mind and get in touch with your feelings. Keep a log of your life, and leave a legacy for future generations.
Set aside time to develop good habits. Make a habit of treating yourself well. Setting aside time for yourself should be a top priority. No matter how busy you are, never become too busy to take some time each day to do something special just for you. After all, you’re the best friend you’ve got!