Interesting “I” is interested in “YOU”
Mother nature has made this universe out of immense love for life. Its wonders and beauties were not solely created for Almighty Himself and His angels but for His creations. When the universe is interested in us since forever, why are we so much self loving and delusional about own self only?An abstract from the book “ How to win friends and influence people” by Dale Carnegie is as follows which reveals that how much this earth is polluted by the word “I” and only “I”:
The New York Telephone Company made a detailed study of
telephone conversations to find out which word is the most
frequently used. You have guessed it: it is the personal pronoun “I.”
“I.” I.” It was used 3,900 times in 500 telephone conversations. “I.”
“I.” “I.” “I.” When you see a group photograph that you are in,
whose picture do you look for first?
When someone is interesting in his own self only, he stops the formation of positive ripples creation which occur when people interact with each other and show affection towards the other person’s health,talk about their problems, take interest in their work,hobbies,activities etc. When we think about others it makes an unseen mutual bond between the two of us, the bond which reflects friendship and kindness. Then it becomes the first link of a chain that will be created and connected by our interest in others.
“We are interested in others when they are interested in us.”
when i start activity according to the book, I adopt the habit using in my tongue not to use word I. Transform I into you. People are interested to talk about them not about yourself. If you talk about them they will take interest in you, so i talk to my friend’s. I ask him what are they doing now a days and what difficulties they face now a days. One of my class mate Abdul Basit says that he is doing not much doing clearance from the university so this process is very difficult. I ask him for his future, what he going to do study or job he says that he will done job , but now a day’s he his applying for job and facing difficulties because he is fresh graduate from university so he has no experience, so he suggest me that done some internship then go to field. It will be help full for me. so go out side talk to people so according to there experiences they will give you advice.
A show of interest, as with every other principle of human relations,
must be sincere. It must pay off not only for the person showing the
interest, but for the person receiving the attention. It is a two-way
street-both parties benefit.