Why do we do what we do?

The small things… the ones that just a couple of people notice..

I am engaged to a girl from the other side of the world. And I keep trying to please her as if she was me. I pay attention to the little details that I would appreciate and I kill myself to be the perfect boyfriend …. In my book.

But what I forget is that she is not me. And the fact that I feel offended when she doesn’t appreciate my efforts, is just a sign of the complete lack of empathy I have for her ( and the lack of empathy she has for me ). I value my actions on my standards while I don’t take enough time to internalize hers…

It is a tough job, try to always keep in mind the things we value while at the same time embrace and appreciate s completely different set of values… I think in my case that will be the key for a long lasting relationship… give her what she wants, even though I might consider that worthless…. Or maybe I’m wrong

Time will tell