What is more painful?

A friend and I were recently chatting during our commute and an interesting question came up: what’s more painful, emotional pain or physical pain? Although I quickly replied with what I thought and feel about both, this question had me thinking for the past few days. In the most Stoic side of me, I sort of like pain, I’ve always endure it, and it’s kind of enjoyable sometimes because I know pain is momentary, in some cases, and the end product will be sweeter. It sounds like I’m a masochist, but I’m not.

I’ve faced both emotional and physical pains more than what I can remember, and I’m sure I’ll keep doing so. I know how tough it’s to lose someone you love, to feel lonely, or to feel depressed to the point of having incredibly suicidal thoughts. At the same time, I also know how difficult it’s when your body doesn’t react to what your mind orders, when you feel your body is thirty years older than your actual age, or to have to give up a sport you’re great at, things you enjoy doing, moments with your friends and family because your body can’t handle it anymore. It’s very sad and depressing.

“You have power over your mind — not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.” 
Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

If I had to choose, I’d hundred percent rather not deal with any pain whatsoever. However, that’s not how life is. I’ve come to the point of understanding that pain is part of life and the process of shaping your mindset, therefore, I’ve accepted to endure pain and live a life I’m proud of, a life without regrets. Why? Because nobody gives a fcuk about my feelings, my pains and my life other than me; but of course, you shouldn’t take my approach because your life and my life aren’t the same or have gone through similar situations. You should definitely appreciate the few people who actually care about you, your feelings, pains and life because they genuinely do so and won’t give up on you easily.


What do you think is more painful — emotional or physical pain? If you’re facing tough moments in your life at this moment, whether emotional or physical, you don’t have to suppress your feelings or go through them alone. Give me a shout and we can talk. I’ve gone through similar situations and would love helping.