The Kindness Myth

Are you a busy go-getter? Constantly on the move to find a solution to the next problem?

or

Are you a compassionate soul? Kind and caring with everyone you encounter?

because you’re probably not both.

We know from the now-iconic 1970s Good Samaritan study that the single greatest predictor of uncaring, unkind, and uncompassionate behavior, even among people who have devoted their lives to the welfare of others, is a perceived lack of time — a feeling of being rushed.

And too many people today feel like they get a merit badge for “being busy.” They feel like busy means important. And important, well, important is valuable.

But that syllogism breaks down pretty quickly, doesn’t it?

It’s not a law like gravity, it’s just the story we tell ourselves. The one that makes us feel like taking a shortcut here and there are the right decisions.

Let’s change the story, if not for us then for our children. What if we decide the hard way is important? Doing what scares us? What if we tell ourselves that quality is more important than quantity?

I’d venture to guess it makes us feel a lot less rushed

And a whole lot nicer.

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