Rebecca Morley Gesufatto
Nov 4 · 2 min read

Both my husband and I are feminist. We understand feminism to be either a man or a woman believing that just because you poses a certain chromosome doesn't mean you have to conform to a certain role in life. We both work but he’s a contract worker in construction and I have a 9–5 office job so when he has a day off from work I normally come home to a clean house, all the laundry done and dinner on the table & all our animals fed (we have a ranch with LOTS of animals and no children). Hell, last Friday night I came home to a clean house, all the laundry done, dinner in the oven and he had drawn me a bath with candles and a glass of wine. The next day I noticed the grass needed cutting (we own 10 acres so we have to cut the grass with a tractor as no lawn mower would cut it — excuse the pun). Instead of nagging my husband to do what is normally considered mans work I just jumped on the tractor and had the whole place mowed before he came home. He works in construction and is outside in the heat all day, every day, so to come home and continue doing outside manual labor is a bore & a chore to him. I work inside in an AC cooled office all day and the thought of staying inside on my day off when I could be outside (even in 90 degree weather) beautifying my property & getting some vitamin D was more appealing to me so I just did it. Now sometimes we reverse things & I have dinner on the table and all the laundry done and he cuts the grass but when one of us that normally does that task or chore runs out of time, the other one picks up the slack and just does it and we don't keep count. Its called adulting and taking the needs of your partner into account whilst also not burdening yourself to the point of depletion. Sometimes it requires a conversation about getting things done and sometimes it doesn't because a pile of laundry doesn't need to be discussed it just needs to be done & it needs to be done by whoever has the time no matter what their gender. You can still have dinner on the table AND be a feminist. I feel like you got this.

    Rebecca Morley Gesufatto

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