The Nature of Confidence 💪🏽
Rebecca’s Weekly Revue
My confidence is something people remark on with regularity. Other than the white hair, it’s a bit of a trademark. Sometimes it’s affectionately called swagger, or less so, and brash.
It’s a thing I like a great deal about myself. I hear fearless a lot too, although that isn’t true. I am full of fear, I just do the thing anyway.
While the confidence is real, it’s not the whole story. I occasionally step on toes in my rush to put myself out there, and no amount of confidence protects me from the sting of derision. The qualities we like best in ourselves can bring problems too. Two sides of the same coin.
And yet, none of this stops me from plotting what’s next.
I figure, people aren’t going to spend much time thinking about my foibles. Why not give it a go?
“You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.” Eleanor Roosevelt
It’s hard to know where the line between confidence and foolishness lies. I intend to keep testing those boundaries.
I usually consider any endeavor a success if I look back and half of me is cringing while the other half is delighted. I wish I could say I cultivated this confidence, but it’s closer to the truth that I am wired this way.
These are a few I am willing to admit to 😉
I may have regrets at the end of my life, but they won’t be because I didn’t try.
“If you are insecure, guess what? The rest of the world is, too. Do not overestimate the competition and underestimate yourself. You are better than you think.” T. Harv Eker
“Confidence isn’t optimism or pessimism, and it’s not a character attribute,” said Ms. Kanter, 61. “It’s the expectation of a positive outcome.” As Ms. Kanter sees it, talent, intelligence and knowledge are nice, but confidence is essential.
Not arrogance or conceit, mind you: those traits lead people to be complacent, or to overshoot. But she believes that someone with confidence, defined as a belief that persistence and hard work will yield results, will win out most every time over equally talented but insecure people.
The corollary is that classic psychoanalysis does not work as well as behavioral therapy in restoring confidence.
The actual cost of a lack of confidence.
But these explanations for a continued failure to break the glass ceiling are missing something more basic: women’s acute lack of confidence.
The elusive nature of confidence has intrigued us ever since we started work on our 2009 book, Womenomics, which looked at the many positive changes unfolding for women. To our surprise, as we talked with women, dozens of them, all accomplished and credentialed, we kept bumping up against a dark spot that we couldn’t quite identify, a force clearly holding them back.
This is exactly what it sounds like in my head 😁 (kidding)
Look at yourself, you radiate confidence. You’re breathing, you’re making cool hairstyles and you’re successfully fighting the bad days away. Life doesn’t remain same forever, even if it’s a little dark around but you can’t let yourself fade away, you’re very very very shiny.