Juno is an awesome movie, and watching it would be useful for anyone. It was beautifully done.

The contemplation of the gender of Elliot Page, however, is a totally different issue with little relevance to the experience of watching the movie. It is acting. He wasn't pregnant or a teenager at the time, either. I have watched some "Ellen" Page movies since his coming out, and the first few minutes are a bit surreal, but, as with all great actors, I soon forget that the person is anyone other than the role.

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Yeah. I know exactly what you mean. I can still hear my mom's shrill bellow as she leaned out of the car window to get as close to the drive-thru speaker as possible and yell, "ONLY PICKLES!!"

Please come to terms with the following two facts: Your mom is 100% a narcissist, which is not curable in any way, and you are, and never will be, responsible for her behavior.

Please stop feeling guilt for situations in no way under your control, and do seek information, if not formal counseling, about narcissists and your relationship with your mother.

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Well, I like weed (with or without brownies), sex, and sweatpants. I don't really want to be anywhere that won't accept flip-flops. I am moved to tears with gratitude that my kids and their friends are growing up free of the rigid expectations of the gender binary. And while I am a mom who does not work for money, the life of June Cleaver is my definition of hell. I do not lament these changes at all. There is no good reason to have to be uncomfortable to make other people more comfortable. We can all just relax and let people just be.

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Rebecca Yoder

Rebecca Yoder

Middle aged, fat, white, mom, searching for a tribe and a purpose.