How to protect yourself from Haters!

There is a ton of “Hate” filled words these days be it on social media or on the television….its everywhere! Most of us are consumed by the trolls known as our “Haters.” Its certainly an interesting topic to discuss because “Hate” in any form is toxic to our wellbeing.
We follow social media faithfully and we find that one of the topics people lament about most often are the Haters.” AKA, people who want to break us down, ruin our reputation, sabotage our our dreams, or worse. We have found that the key to “handling” your haters (and ours) is to try and understand there current situation. We’ll breakdown how we determine amongst our “Haters” which mean us harm, and to simply ignore those who are envious and jealous of who we are and what we have.
- Know the difference between someone who is petty and wants to tear you down through gossip, and someone who is out to do serious damage to your reputation, your financial interest, and/or your character. Gossips will always exist.
- “Haters,” as we like to call them, are people who are broken and stuck. It’s because you have something that they don’t. Whether its your new house, your new car, or your life in general. You possess something that they don’t have and that upsets them. Life can be unfair at times and some people either are unable or are unwilling to put in the necessary work to get to where they want to be in life. “Haters” typically can’t figure out why they are where they are and they will seek someone to blame. This is how they deal with their feelings of inadequacy and inferiority after comparing themselves with others — by putting it on you.
“Haters” for the most part should be our motivators. Instead of getting upset about how they attack, demean, or talk about you, look at it for what it is: You are doing something very right in your life for someone to be so consumed with and by your every word or deed. As long as they keep their distance and don’t try to do you physical, relational or financial harm, they are harmless. Feel sorry for them, pray for them and keep climbing.
Our point in this article is: “Hate is never about you”. It is always about them and what is missing in their lives. Always! If someone corrects you that is not “Hating on you.” If someone does not like you but does not go around trashing you, that is not “Hating on you.” Learn to discern between those who are mindless gossips and those who are dangerous character assassins. Haters hate that you are living your possible and that they don’t have the courage or character to do so. They hate your light and how brightly it shines. Regardless, don’t retaliate, if you need to have it stopped, seek legal counsel or experienced mediators; but whatever you do, don’t dim your light! Pray for them, release them, and keep being you!
