At first, I thought I was alone, and that no one could possibly understand what I was going through in my efforts to date a dismissive-avoidant. But when I started looking into relationship personalities that are a result of trauma, the research was abundant.
It was like I had been left out of a high school rumor that was about me and my relationship.
Thousands of people all over had written articles on dismissive-avoidant partners and how painful it is to try to love them. And they all had similar experiences, specifically when they were anxious individuals themselves.
I’m in a weird spot.
I was born in 1990, so I was 14 for the launch of Facebook, 15 for YouTube, 20 for Instagram, and 26 for TikTok.
I lived the majority of my childhood without these types of apps and social media. I was a 90s kid. I played whiffle ball and driveway basketball. We ate snow cones from ice cream trucks and Spongebob popsicles with gumballs for eyes. It never looked like the picture on the wrapping and we were cool with it.
Later on, when everyone started dating, we would go to drive-in movie theaters and…
The truth is: after completing 50BurgersATL, I kept finding out about more cheeseburgers in Atlanta, and I just had to have them. People would hear about my project and immediately go, “Oh that’s so cool, but have you ever had _____?”
Most of the time, the answer was yes. I’ve eaten over 75 different burgers in Atlanta in the past two years, and that’s not counting fast food or chains (maybe next up?). But sometimes, someone would tell me about one that I hadn’t even heard of, so here it is. The amendment. The addition. The brand-new. The forgotten. The…
Having an anxious-attachment style when it comes to personal relationships can be challenging. But what is it actually like to have an anxious-attachment style? I’ve constantly tried to explain myself to people I’m interested in, and it never feels good enough. It’s a daunting task — it’s a strange form of opening up that can be overwhelming for both parties.
To delve into this a bit deeper, let’s cover attachment theory and briefly dismiss some of its critiques. Then we’ll look at what anxiety is, how it plays into anxious-attachment, and what you can do about it.
Robin Williams was one of those actors that never let me down. And it wasn’t his unbelievable acting skills that got me. Don’t get me wrong, I think he was a fantastic actor, and he is famously known for diving deep into a character’s inner motives. But he wasn’t like some of the method actors today, and he certainly had his share of mediocre films.
But his most well-known films, I believe, are beloved for a reason.
Robin Williams embedded a little piece of himself into his best performances. …
Let’s start out with a great little chunk of writing.
“Still there is the page. Still I am up late or up early, typing away, trying to capture an idea or an image in black words on a white background in twenty-six characters and ten punctuation marks, as Kurt Vonnegut used to remark. Still there is the silence of a sleeping house, rent only by the padded feet and shining eyes of a cat or two. Still we learn to chop wood by doing it badly, only succeeding when we aim for the chopping block rather than the wood.”
In the world of digital marketing, there are predominantly two main types of content writing that tend to be most desirable to clients:
Of course, generating leads for an online business is always the end goal, but the means by which you aim to accomplish this task impacts the way your content should be written.
Many clients don’t even know to ask for one or the other, but the magic lies in understanding which one they need. …
I’ve been writing for Medium for around two years now, and one thing is for sure: you never stop adjusting and optimizing. If you’re really looking to grow your audience and become prolific, you have no choice but to try to keep up.
Writers like Tim Denning, Nicolas Cole, and Niklas Göke perpetually transform how I approach the platform, and there’s nothing that I love more than an environment where I never stop learning. Honestly, they keep me going, and I don’t plan on stopping until I’m amongst those guys.
Productivity doesn’t have to be about waking up at 5 a.m. to meditate before your electrolyte-and-hemp-seed-filled protein shake and rigorous workout. Of course, I think some of those things are great, actually.
But when I click on articles with titles like this one, I’m not looking for recipes. I’m not looking for workout routines. I know that sleeping in isn’t productive.
When I click on a productivity-related title, it’s because I’m feeling scatterbrained. Perhaps I’m overwhelmed with work and I’m procrastinating my next project, or maybe I’ve got a lot on my plate and don’t know what to do first…
You’ve heard this: the commonly held philosophy that the thing for which you’re searching always seems to find you just when you stop looking.
This is said about love for the most part, but I’ve heard it used to describe successful shopping trips, job opportunities, and even lost items around the house.
“I bet your keys will turn up once you stop looking.”
But why is this a saying? Surely it wouldn’t be this widely maintained notion if it wasn’t at least anecdotally true. We must have had people experience this concept over centuries of lost items and hopeful encounters.
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