But do you, though?

“I deserve better.”

I’ve occasionally said this phrase or felt slighted in various instances, some of which are somewhat inconsequential; like having seemingly bad luck with traffic or missing a “gimme” putt in golf.

“Why me? I deserve better!”

But other times, I catch myself and others feeling this way about larger, much more impactful moments.

My parents were together for my entire childhood and well into my college years, and as far as I knew they were more than happy. But one day, my dad called me out of work and told me that he needed me to check…

I changed the wording of that title thrice

Perfectionism is an interesting concept, because it’s a bit subjective, isn’t it? Everyone thinks they work hard, or that they want things a certain way, or that they’re at least slightly picky in certain facets. But “how perfect you prefer things” isn’t exactly what we call measurable.

Anxiety also always feels a little bit subjective as well. There’s certainly a spectrum, to say the least. You can have general, “appropriate” anxiety surrounding a logical reason for future concern, or you can have panic attacks and heart palpitations because your crush didn’t respond to your text in a timely manner.


“Use our app or else”

I’m in a weird spot.

I was born in 1990, so I was 14 for the launch of Facebook, 15 for YouTube, 20 for Instagram, and 26 for TikTok.

I lived the majority of my childhood without these types of apps and social media. I was a 90s kid. I played whiffle ball and driveway basketball. We ate snow cones from ice cream trucks and Spongebob popsicles with gumballs for eyes. It never looked like the picture on the wrapping and we were cool with it.

Later on, when everyone started dating, we would go to drive-in movie theaters and…

The truth is: after completing 50BurgersATL, I kept finding out about more cheeseburgers in Atlanta, and I just had to have them. People would hear about my project and immediately go, “Oh that’s so cool, but have you ever had _____?”

Most of the time, the answer was yes. I’ve eaten over 75 different burgers in Atlanta in the past two years, and that’s not counting fast food or chains (maybe next up?). But sometimes, someone would tell me about one that I hadn’t even heard of, so here it is. The amendment. The addition. The brand-new. The forgotten. The…

Plus some tips to neutralize it and become a better partner

Having an anxious-attachment style when it comes to personal relationships can be challenging. But what is it actually like to have an anxious-attachment style? I’ve constantly tried to explain myself to people I’m interested in, and it never feels good enough. It’s a daunting task — it’s a strange form of opening up that can be overwhelming for both parties.

To delve into this a bit deeper, let’s cover attachment theory and briefly dismiss some of its critiques. Then we’ll look at what anxiety is, how it plays into anxious-attachment, and what you can do about it.

What is Attachment Theory?

Attachment theory is…

“Words and ideas can change the world.”

Robin Williams was one of those actors that never let me down. And it wasn’t his unbelievable acting skills that got me. Don’t get me wrong, I think he was a fantastic actor, and he is famously known for diving deep into a character’s inner motives. But he wasn’t like some of the method actors today, and he certainly had his share of mediocre films.

But his most well-known films, I believe, are beloved for a reason.

Robin Williams embedded a little piece of himself into his best performances. …

And how they can facilitate codependency

At first, I thought I was alone, and that no one could possibly understand what I was going through in my efforts to date a dismissive-avoidant. But when I started looking into relationship personalities that are a result of trauma, the research was abundant.

It was like I had been left out of a high school rumor that was about me and my relationship.

Thousands of people all over had written articles on dismissive-avoidant partners and how painful it is to try to love them. And they all had similar experiences, specifically when they were anxious individuals themselves.

But what…

For when you don’t think you deserve the spot you got

Let’s start out with a great little chunk of writing.

“Still there is the page. Still I am up late or up early, typing away, trying to capture an idea or an image in black words on a white background in twenty-six characters and ten punctuation marks, as Kurt Vonnegut used to remark. Still there is the silence of a sleeping house, rent only by the padded feet and shining eyes of a cat or two. Still we learn to chop wood by doing it badly, only succeeding when we aim for the chopping block rather than the wood.”


Know the difference and improve your content marketing strategy with a few tweaks

In the world of digital marketing, there are predominantly two main types of content writing that tend to be most desirable to clients:

  1. SEO-boosting content
  2. Lead-generating content

Of course, generating leads for an online business is always the end goal, but the means by which you aim to accomplish this task impacts the way your content should be written.

Many clients don’t even know to ask for one or the other, but the magic lies in understanding which one they need. …

Maximize your success-rate and waste zero time

I’ve been writing for Medium for around two years now, and one thing is for sure: you never stop adjusting and optimizing. If you’re really looking to grow your audience and become prolific, you have no choice but to try to keep up.

Writers like Tim Denning, Nicolas Cole, and Niklas Göke perpetually transform how I approach the platform, and there’s nothing that I love more than an environment where I never stop learning. Honestly, they keep me going, and I don’t plan on stopping until I’m amongst those guys.

Additionally, there are tons of fantastic publications that I never…

Reid Gan

Copywriter at Bearpaw Partners, which is how I afford my dog’s apartment.

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