Who Do You Go To For Relationship Advice?

Carla and Steve feel like their relationship has hit a wall. They have been dating for 6 months and the passion seems different. They once wanted to spend every moment together, but currently, feel that it is fine not to hang out on a given day. Sex also feels different- more disconnected. “We just aren’t romantic anymore”, Carla complains. “We aren’t having as much sex as we use to”, Steve grumbles. But who are they confiding in?

At Relationup, we were curious about who the trusted sources were for each sex and so, we conducted a survey. Here are the top 4 insights about the differences between who men and women (ages 25–35) go to with their relationship problems.

  1. Friends are the overwhelming, primary “go to” support for males. 80 percent of men sought out advice from close male and female friends. Only 40 percent of females went to female friends for advice. Both sexes preferred to confide in members of the same sex.
  2. Women are more interested than men in seeking out advice from the female members of their family. Women turned to their sisters for advice 33 percent of the time and their mothers 13 percent of the time. Men consulted with brothers, dads, and moms only 5 percent of the time.
  3. Men and women are not interested in talking to siblings of the opposite sex about their relationship problems. Men rarely went to their sisters for advice and women chose not to consult with their brothers.
  4. More women than men choose not to talk to anyone about their problems. 13 percent of women and 5 percent of men decided to keep their problems to themselves and not share them.

Men and women have different sources of support for their most personal relationship problems. Carla will likely go to several different people for counsel. She may talk to her siblings, mother and/or friends. Steve, will stick to his friends. Interestingly, the old stereotypes of women running to their mothers and of men not sharing their problems with anyone, don’t seem to hold true with this generation. In fact, Steve is even more likely than Carla to share his relationship problems with his confidants.