Unfortunately society as a whole has been hoodwinked. I am not fat because I eat unhealthfully; ( I’m predominantly paleo and consume 1500 or less calories each day and do yoga 3x a week) I am fat because my thyroid is broken. People assume I am fat because I have no self control and eat junk food all the time. Obesity is a side effect of other health issues not “the” issue. I don’t want to be loved because I’m fat…someday I might actually have success with the right cocktail of meds and my lifestyle and make my goal weight and not be fat anymore. I want to be loved because they see me and find that person worth their effort regardless of my appearance.