We are fighting to change that culture: I was outside a bathroom on a school campus when I was assaulted, I had had nothing to drink, I was wearing jeans a white t shirt and flannel shirt over that, he was my bestie’s ex and no flirting had taken place, I was alone because we trusted our current company and my bestie left me in the bathroom by myself. I grew up in an abusive home; I was always cautious none of that helped me or stopped him. I am not alone there are at least thousands of other women who share similar stories. I was responsible with my choices and I refuse to be forced to take responsibility for his assault. No one should.