Sounds like you’re “mansplaining” to me. Thanks, but no thanks.
Of course your experience of what is being conveyed when asked that question has been clearly different than mine. That question comes with tone, body language, context that is too difficult to explain in a mere response. There’s nothing wrong with being asked that question except when you know as the receiving party of that question that there is a tone of, “You don’t quite fit in with us, do you?” If you’ve never felt that, you’ve never experienced racism or sexism or xenophobia.
Xenophobia is a word because, well, it’s a real thing.