It’s 6 pm. You’re absolutely beat — work was ridiculously long today, and you’re relieved at the first opportunity to close your multiple tabs…for now. You close your eyes for just one moment and then reopen them to make yourself a warm hot chocolate. As you make your warm beverage, you decide to scroll through social media.
What harm can it do?
Within seconds, you are flooded with ads, social validation, and videos all screaming one thing.
Hustle like your life depends on it. Work doesn’t end at 6 pm, it ends at 6 am. Put in that night shift or early morning work right this moment. Your entire claim to financial freedom depends on it. Do this now or you will end up old and wrinkly with pennies to your name cleverly disguised as your pitiful retirement allowance. …
Hey there, writer. You suck.
No, do not power-down your laptop and call it a day. Don’t chuck your pen at your wall either. No need to be so dramatic about these things. Someone had to tell you, after all.
I suck at writing too. Sounds pretty crazy since I am out here…writing for a living. You’d think someone who has dedicated much of their life’s work to writing would, at the very least, be good at it, you know?
Well, I’m pretty bad at writing, and so are you. And guess what? That’s perfectly fine. It occurred to me pretty recently that I’m bad at writing. Up until then, I always thought I was really good. I aced my undergraduate and master’s degrees. I always put out pretentious and long Facebook statuses and tweets to signpost that I’m, you know, articulate. …
You don’t need supporters — you need haters.
That’s right. Forget about the long list of folks you have that stroke your ego. You know the ones I’m talking about. The ones that clap and applaud everything you post or create. The ones that read a sentence of your piece and said ‘bravo!’ The ones that you bounce an idea off and they greenlight you with any sort of real scrutiny.
Those people are the ones you need to avoid like the plague. They’re the ones that will cosign your demise.
Back to haters. You need them. Close haters.
My best friend is a big hater. I know I can ask her for her thoughts and feedback, and she’ll give me the real deal, no sugar coating. I have a coach who will do the same — his feedback is like having straight coffee, no sugar. I recently shared my recent personal brand pivot thoughts to both these characters, and both told me what worked and what didn’t. …