Self Reminder You aren’t responsible for that systemic failure, no matter what mistakes you did or didn’t make. You were failed, too, because you were made to feel responsible for your loved one’s life — which is much too heavy a responsibility for any person to carry. You’re not a crisis professional, and even if you are, you’re not perfect. You’re only human. You loved them the best way you knew how. I wish so desperately it had been enough, for both our sakes. I know how painful it is to accept it wasn’t.