Getting to Know You, Getting to Know All About You

‘I am getting to know so much about her and, fortunately, I delight in each new thing’

Roxane Gay
8 min readJun 2, 2020

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For the entirety of our relationship, my fiancée Debbie and I have been long distance. Or, we were long distance. She is based in New York City and I am based in Los Angeles and we are both stubborn about changing our geographies. For…

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Roxane Gay

I write. I want a tiny baby elephant. If you clap, I clap back. Books.: Ayiti, Untamed State, Bad Feminist. Difficult Women, World of Wakanda 1–5, Hunger.