Unfortunately, you did not get her drift.
And then, when she called you on it, you doubled down with another unwanted lecture instead of responding appropriately with some variation of “I’m sorry for your loss.”
This is not about you. Let me say it again:
This is not about you.
You’re free, as are we all, to write about how you view death. Hijacking Alexainie’s grief to do it is worse than tone deaf. It’s thoughtless and cruel.