Thanks for taking the time to write this insight into your thinking. I would like to ask a question and put forward a possible way out.
My question — as you point out, white people almost immediately hit on the safety pin as a way of saying “not me”, while black people and muslims never came up with this. Why is that? Is it something in white culture? Or something in black or muslim culture?
My suggestion — lets get rid of this safety pin and “not me” nonsense altogether. Lets stop stereotyping people based on their gender and race. People and their circumstances are way too complex for that. Specifically:
I’m white — no, that doesn’t mean I voted Trump or that I’m privileged
I’m black — no, that doesn’t mean I’m a lazy violent BLM protester.
I’m muslim — no, that doesn’t mean I secretly support ISIS.
I’m male — no, that doesn’t make me a borderline rapist or wife beater.
I’m female — no, that doesn’t mean I have to support feminism.
I’m German — no, that doesn’t mean I’m a neo nazi.
I’m Italian — no, that doesn’t mean I’m with the mafia.
(If I forgot your favorite stereotype, please add it here)
I’m a human being — what I do and think is partly shaped by my genes and partly shaped by my circumstances. Don’t put me in some gender/race box. If you dislike what I say or do, by all means have a respectful discussion but don’t try to shout me down or slander me.