You are making one critical, wrong, assumption, and that is I’m approaching women that do not want to interact with me. In fact, when I see someone with headphones on or their nose in a book I assume they want space, but I do regret the fact there is no social standard for politely attempting to interact as well as politely accepting someone declining.
“ You have a difficult time understanding your place when it comes to adding to the conversation.” Uh, huh. Perhaps you might choose to rephrase that, or you just don’t get the irony of your statement.
You might also want to look into the irony of your statements regarding feelings considering that you are not exactly the model of consideration yourself.